Spa Day Healing Events for girls of all ages
The Doll House Corporation is a non-profit 501(c)3 organization aimed at building and maintaining self-esteem in girls. In addition to our self-esteem curriculum we offer Spa Day Healing Events. Our events have the ability to change lives through education,
consultation, and healing the body, mind & spirit.
Our events include:
Exercise & Stretching
All our events are created for the individual needs of all girls. You tell us what your needs are and we will design an event specifically for your school, program, or organization, in an atmosphere of spa ambiance!
Color & Light
Crystals & Gems
Will be used to calm the body, mind & spirit during all our workshops
Janice Johnson holds a Certificate in Holistic and Intergrative Health.
What is Self-esteem?
Self-Esteem Can Be Taught
What is self-esteem? To find out, close your eyes and ask yourself three questions: 1. What is it that I like about me? 2. What is it that I respect about me? 3. What is it that I love about me? First notice how good
it felt to answer those questions. Telling the truth about ourselves as you have just done—that we are attractive, able and giving, does work and it makes us feel good. Too often we are telling ourselves what doesn’t feel good—such as: “How
can I be so stupid? I know I’ll fail! I can’t do anything right”. These negative statements only serve to lower our self-esteem.
Now notice the categories that your answers fell into. For example, some of you liked the fact that you look good or that you have nice things. This is the first category, that of our physical presentation. It is the least important category, however, many young people have noticed only their physical presentation.
Some of you found that you respected your ability to perform as a teacher, athlete, or student. This is the second category, that of performance. We learn early on the advantage of being skilled in a. academics: using our minds; b. sports: using our bodies and c. activities of life: cooking, repairing, sewing, creating art, organizing, public speaking, performing arts, etc.
Many of you had qualities that you loved about yourself that dealt with your personality, which is the third and most important category. This includes such attributes as being trustworthy, being a good friend and being respectful of others and ourselves. Developing these qualities gives us a feeling of self-worth and value.
Notice that the physical things you thought of in the first group are all things you have nurtured or acquired. The performance activities of the second group are also things you have learned. You were not born knowing how to type 100 words a minute or knowing how to play an excellent game of golf. In the last group are personality traits that you have fostered, such as being a responsible person, having a good sense of humor or being reliable. Note that these are all areas you have developed and have accomplished by yourself!
(A speech by Betty Hatch author of Self-esteem.org)
Beauty, Style & Etiquette
- The Etiquette session focuses on positive social behavior in girls and is the basis of how successful they will be in school, work, and home. Conducting themselves appropriately in society is something that should
be taught very early. We teach the girls appropriate manners through role play exercises. Here is our list.
30 Manners Everyone Should Know
#1: When asking for something, say "Please."
#2: When receiving something, say "Thank you." Be especially appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive.
#3: Do not interrupt people who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
#4: If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
#5: When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
#6: Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of others.
#7: Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
#8: When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
#9: When you have spent time at a friend's house, remember to thank your hosts for having you over and for the good time you had.
#10: Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.
#11: When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
#12: Use a quiet voice inside, especially in places like restaurants.
#13: Never use foul language in front of people if you don't know if it will bother them.
#14: Don't call people mean names.
#15: Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
#16: Even if an event is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
#17: If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
#18: Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
#19: As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
#20: Help others out when you can.
#21: When someone helps you, say "thank you."
#22: When someone asks you to do something, try to do it without grumbling and with a smile. You have a right to say no, you should be polite and offer a good reason if you do. If someone asks you to do something that feels dangerous or wrong, it's okay to say no and not be polite to keep yourself safe.
#23: Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask someone to teach you or watch what people you respect do.
#24: Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
#25: Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
#26: Chew with your mouth closed.
#27: If you hurt someone, say "I'm sorry" and try to find a way to make it better.
#28: Don't hurt people on purpose.
#29: Don't use people's things without permission.
#30: Treat others the way you'd like to be treated.
- During our Beauty session the girls are taught how to make homemade skin cleansers, facial mask, skin creams, oils that they will enjoy, along with hair care and fashion tips. During our sessions the girls have the opportunity to use their products and even make the containers that hold them!
- Dinner parties, formal dances, & fashion shows are celebrated events that are created by the youth after the workshop series have been successfully completed. The whole community is invited to celebrate and share in the girls success!!
Why is Self-esteem so Necessary?
Why is self-esteem so necessary? We must like, respect, and love ourselves before we can have those feelings for others or their property. Notice that a persons’ self-esteem is in direct correlation to their professionalism. That is, a person’s ability to represent themselves appropriately, perform on the job and be a person with whom others can relate is an indication of their success in whatever station of life they have selected!
Schools have concentrated on the academic and athletic performance facets of instruction. They have almost ignored successful performance in day to day living, personal presentation and the personality requisites to acquiring a job. Young people have not been trained how to feel good about themselves, and therefore cannot look into the eyes of a potential employer, dress appropriately for the job or situation, or take responsibility for doing the best job possible.
What is instruction in appropriate presentation? It includes posture, carriage, grooming, dress, voice and diction, diet, exercise, gestures and knowledge of body language. Presentation has always been an area of judgment. The decision to hire or not is often made in the first 30 seconds: this visual decision is based mainly on the garments worn, in that clothes cover 75% of the body. We can manage the cleanliness of our bodies and what we wear and therefore effect what judgment is made of us. Beach clothing is only appropriate if applying for a job at the beach, not in an office. And likewise, formal clothes look silly on the beach. Our clothes can work for or against us just as our carriage and our voice.
Successful performance in day-to-day living includes knowledge of how to: set goals, how to communicate clearly and concisely, how to shake hands, read a map, how to use correct etiquette in social and professional situations, how to keep accurate financial records, write checks, balance a statement, organize your things and your files, how to keep a schedule, create a resume, interview for jobs, write or print legibly, spell or be able to look up the word, and how to understand real estate, banking and insurance basics.
(An edited version of a speech by Betty Hatch author of self-esteem.org)